People may delay divorce to preserve their lifestyle

When some people finally start talking about divorce, it comes as a relief. They realize that it’s something that they have wanted for a long time, but they were just delaying taking that step.

Why do they do it? The reasons are different for everyone, of course, but many people do it so that they don’t upset their lifestyle. It’s not just about the relationship. It’s about everything that goes along with it.

For instance, one woman found out her husband had been seeing someone else, but she convinced herself to stay in her marriage for another six years. She later admitted that she wished she had just been stronger and asked for a divorce at the time. The reasons she didn’t included:

  • They had three children together
  • They owned a home
  • They had once been in love
  • Her husband wasn’t abusive in any way

Essentially, she was just trying to preserve the life that they had previously had together. She enjoyed that stability. She wanted her kids to stay in a two-parent family with a “happy” marital home and a “normal” life. She even noted that she didn’t worry about not being married personally, but she was just trying to keep that lifestyle together. For many people, it just feels like that is what they are supposed to do and they don’t want to upset the balance.

It can be hard to break this mindset, but you don’t want to stay in a marriage too long and regret it later. If it is time to get divorced, make sure you know what steps to take. An attorney can help you understand more about the process and where to get started.

 


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Author: On behalf of Katie L. Lewis of Katie L. Lewis, P.C. Family Law