“Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict – alternatives to passive or aggressive responses….”
MEDIATION – As a quick background, I have been in practice as a lawyer since 1994. I have two teenage children who I co-parented with my ex wife. I enjoyed being a single dad and I personally learned a great deal about the challenges and emotions of going through a separation and divorce. I think there are solutions to every problem and that is why I love mediation. So far we have had an 90% success rate with some very difficult cases included.
As anyone who has ever worked with me already knows, I believe in compromise and pragmatic cooperation when possible and appropriate. I have handled some very hard cases and in many of those cases the parties thought there was no way to settlement. While a precious few cases need to be tried to a Court, most can be settled if the parties wish to put aside their emotions and follow the “better angels” of their nature. I explore solutions and options rather than focus on the differences. I have found that this philosophy has served all parties involved better than any other approach and I welcome the opportunity to help you achieve the same fair and effective results in mediation.
“A good lawyer knows the Law, a great lawyer knows the Judge.” After practicing law as long as I have, you see many of your attorney friends take the bench as judges. Having a good relationship with the Judges in charge of your case and learning their philosophies and tendencies on family law issues enables me to make a very good estimate of what the Judge is likely to do. This information enables you to make a better informed decision on settlement. Drawing on my familiarity with the local Judges combined with many many hours spent in mediation in my career, I am confident that I can help you amicably resolve your case or at least many of the issues so that your trial time is narrowed down and you can save money.
COSTS – Our mediation rates are $180.00 per hour with a minimum of two hours. The costs will be divided equally between the parties unless otherwise agreed to. Thus, the total cost for a two hour mediation will be $360.00 and each party should bring at least $180.00 cash, money order or credit or debit card. Additional time spent on the mediation is billed at $180.00 per hour. A copy of the mediation agreement and directions and all other particulars will be mailed to the attorneys mediating the case and/or the parties or pro se litigants. Here is a sample of the letter you should review prior to mediation explaining the costs, procedure and responsibilities of both parties and the mediator. Mediations are in person or by videoconferencing, your choice. Here are the directions for using Zoom, scroll halfway down the page to “ZOOM”: https://www.matthewpgomez.com/coronavirus-covid-19-update/
PARTIES WITHOUT ATTORNEYS – In Oklahoma, parties who already have a custody order, such as a Joint Custody Plan, are REQUIRED to attend mediation in good faith to resolve their conflicts prior to going back to Court. We can help with that. The procedures are mostly the same as above. Simply contact your ex-spouse/ex-partner and after discussing it, provide us with contact information for both of you and we will set up and confirm a mediation for you. Many times mediation is less than two hours, depending on the issue. Should one party confirm and then fail to appear without cause, we can write a letter to the Court stating you attempted mediation in good faith and the other party did not.
AVAILABILITY – We have many available mediation dates, and I encourage you to contact us if you have special needs or need special unlisted times or other circumstances that need to be addressed. Generally we have mediation in the morning or the afternoon. We can work on the start times with you, the default time is 10:00 am in the morning or 2:00 pm in the afternoon. Our telephone number is 918-794-5587, or you can fax us at 918-794-5827 or email me or my assistant at email@example.com for further information about scheduling your next mediation.
INSTRUCTIONS – To use the calendar below, just click on an available date and complete the contact form with your preferred time slot (morning or afternoon) and we will book the date for you and send you confirmation and all the mediation information you need. The calendar is updated daily so if you are at the Courthouse, look up our available dates without having to call…. And don’t worry, if you are busy like me or just want to be extra sure about booking, have someone call, and we will gladly do it all for you.
WHAT TO BRING – Always check with your lawyer, however, most parties bring their own personal file of divorce/litigation documents. Other than a paycheck with your current pay information, I really do not need you to bring anything. Many times the attorneys have already provided us with this information. Dress casual and comfortable and we have snacks and drinks.
LEGEND: The calendar below shows available mediation dates and times … the green dates are open, red dates are booked, green dates with a small clock are partially booked, the uncolored dates are unavailable … partially booked means either the afternoon or morning time slot is open but not both. Use your mouse and hover over the partially booked days to see what time is available. It will be the only option available in the booking form below the calendar.