Do you get better at marriage with more attempts?

You got married when you were 20. You were young and in love — a fairly classic situation. However, like many young marriages, it turned out to be a mistake. A few years later, you got divorced.

You have now gotten married for a second time. You’re older. You’re more experienced. You have been through all of this. Are you now “better” at marriage and less likely to split up again?

While every individual can make an argument for their own case, when you look at the statistics, it’s clear that this is not what usually happens. According to some studies, about half of first marriages end in divorce. By second marriages, it jumps to around two-thirds. And for third marriages? At 74%, the vast majority of them lead to a divorce.

Why is this? Again, everyone may have their own reasons. Some suggest that they’re just more comfortable with divorce now, having done it once. It doesn’t feel as confusing or intimidating, and they know they can get through it and move on with a happy life. In other cases, the relationships just get too complicated. Maybe you have children from your first marriage, for instance, and so you still have to see your ex. After a time, that can lead to stress for your new spouse and it could bring about a second divorce.

No matter what your individual situation looks like, just make sure you know what your rights are. Divorce happens, you do have options, and you need to know exactly how to move forward with this process.