MEDIATION – I am a certified mediator in Family and Divorce Mediations having completed Family and Divorce Mediation Training. I also have extensive training in Domestic Violence Training and still accept occasional referrals from the Domestic Violence Intervention Service in Tulsa. I have been mediating cases for many years in civil cases and primarily family law matters. The primary focus of my legal practice is dedicated to mediations. I still maintain 20 or so domestic cases so that I can stay in contact with our local Judges and be a better mediator for you.
A little background about me, I have been in practice as a family law lawyer since 1994. I have two young adult children who I successfully co-parented with my ex-wife. I enjoyed being a single dad, and I personally learned a great deal about the challenges and emotions of going through a separation and divorce. Over thirty years of divorces and personally helping clients through the worst times of their lives has given me an appreciation for wanting to help people get to better times as inexpensively and quickly as possible.
I believe there are solutions to every problem, and that is why I love mediation. So far we have had an 95% plus success rate with some very difficult cases included. It is important to listen during mediations. Your story is literally your life story. I believe it is important that we talk about the facts of your case, what evidence you have to present to the Court and, most importantly, what do we believe the Judge will do when presented the facts and evidence. From there, the parties make offers and counter-offers going back and forth until we can agree to all the issues. I have handled some very hard cases, and in many of those cases the parties thought there was no way to settlement, and yet, often times many agreements can be reached.
“A good lawyer knows the Law, a great lawyer knows the Judge.” After practicing law as long as I have, you see many of your attorney friends take the bench as judges. Having a good relationship with the Judges in charge of your case and learning their philosophies and tendencies on family law issues enables me to make a very good estimate of what the Judge is likely to do. This information enables us to make a better informed decision on settlement. Drawing on my familiarity with the local Judges combined with many many hours spent in mediation in my career, I am confident that I can help you amicably resolve your case or at least many of the issues so that your trial time is narrowed down, and you can save money.
COSTS – Our mediation rates, as of January 1, 2026 are $260.00 per hour per person with a minimum of two hours. We request payment in advance of mediation so that we can spend more time focused on resolution of your issues. To pay for your mediation online, use this link: https://www.matthewpgomez.com/pay-now/. Payment made in person at our office on or before the day of mediation, but failure to pay the $260.00 mediation fee may result in the matter being re-scheduled or cancelled. We accept cash, money order, credit or debit cards, PayPal, Venmo or Cash App. Additional time spent on the mediation, over the two-hour minimum, is billed at $130.00 per party per hour.
A copy of the mediation confirmation letter will be emailed to the attorneys mediating the case and/or the parties or pro se litigants and will contain all the important information you need for a successful mediation. Please review this documentation, and your attendance at mediation is confirmation that you reviewed and agreed to the terms prior to the mediation. If you have any questions, of course, do not hesitate to ask.
Mediations are in person or by videoconferencing, if your choice. Here are the directions for using Zoom, scroll halfway down the page to “ZOOM”: https://www.matthewpgomez.com/zoom
PARTIES WITHOUT ATTORNEYS – In Oklahoma, parties who already have a custody order, such as a Joint Custody Plan, are often REQUIRED to attend mediation in good faith to resolve their conflicts prior to going back to Court. We can help with that. The procedures are mostly the same as above. Simply contact your ex-spouse/ex-partner and, after discussing it, provide us with contact information for both of you, and we will set up and confirm a mediation for you. Most times mediation is approximately two hours long, depending on the issue(s). Also, should one party confirm and then fail to appear without cause, we can write a letter to the Court stating you attempted mediation in good faith and the other party did not.
AVAILABILITY – We have many available mediation dates, and I encourage you to contact us if you have special needs, are a victim of domestic violence, or need special unlisted times or other circumstances that need to be addressed. Confidentiality will be maintained.
Generally we have mediation in the morning or the afternoon. We can work on the start times with you, the default time is 9:00 in the morning or 1:00 in the afternoon and 4:00 in the evening. Our telephone number is 918-794-5587, or you can fax us at 918-794-5827 or email me: (Matt) matt@matthewpgomez.com or my assistant (Barrie) at : 1444lawoffice@gmail.com for further information/questions about scheduling your next mediation.
WHAT TO BRING – Always check with your lawyer, however, most parties bring their own personal file of divorce/litigation documents. I think ChatGPT suggests making a concise list of the issues to be litigated, personal property lists with verified values, complete lists of debts from the date of separation, and if children are involved, specific visitation schedules. These items can be very helpful, but I need you to bring with you what you feel will help you feel organized in getting the contested issues resolved. Many times, the attorneys have already provided us with this information. Also, just dress casual and comfortable, we have free snacks, coffee and drinks. There is ample free parking in the front or back of the office.
EASY BOOKING INSTRUCTIONS – To use the calendar below, just click on the month and date that appears in green or yellow. Green dates have all time slots available. Yellow dates have limited time slots available. Dates in red have already been booked. Once you select the date, just select the available time slot of your choice and click the “Next” button. We require you to enter your first and last name, your email address, telephone number and finally the county and case number, e.g. (Wagoner FD-21-4315). There is also plenty of space for optional information we might need … or just email us if you have “additional notes”. Please let us know of any protective orders, handicap accessibility issues, the names of GAL’s, PD’s, Attorneys for children or anything else you want to bring to our attention. Also, the calendar is updated daily, so if you are at the Courthouse and need a date right away, look up our available dates and book mediation with us on your cell phone without having to call our office. Once you follow these steps outlined above, you will receive an email approving the reservation of the date and time for mediation you selected. We will also follow that initial email with another email containing our mediation confirmation letter detailing prices, directions and all other information and instructions your client(s) will need. And don’t worry, if you are busy like me or just don’t want my legal assistant to be replaced by computer software, have someone email or call us for mediation dates before you go to Court and/or to make the booking confirmation for you, and we will gladly expedite your mediation confirmation.
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