Coronavirus COVID-19 Update

Update 2-27-22… COVID is like that bad ex spouse … it just won’t go away.  The CDC has now stated that masks do not need to be worn indoors in areas where COVID is not on the rise.  My nurse friends tell me that the ICUs are getting less crowded, and that is great news for all of us.  While diligence is always needed, especially with new variants on the horizon, we are asking those with compromised immune systems to let us know how best to make you comfortable.  Our seating arrangements still provide for social distancing, and we continue to completely sanitize the meeting room/offices after every in-person visits. Of course, we still offer Zoom meetings for appointments for safety and convenience if you prefer.

For current clients, we do have a big mail slot by the front door of our office.  Feel free to drop copies of paperwork off and then either email or call us. Most everything we do can be handled by email and phone calls… but we still would love to see you in person.

As to our mediations,  we have a webpage for you to book your dates online…  OR, if you prefer, email or call us (918)794-5587 and we will send you an updated list of dates and times.  We are having mediations in person, or online or a mixture of both.   We can either send you a link for a videoconference or you can meet in-person at the office.



 At the time of filing, you will be given a date for your Parenting Plan Conference (PPC)

  1. The PPC date is when you will enter a Scheduling Order and reach Temporary Order Agreements in your case.
  2. If DHS is an interested party in your case, they must sign any Temporary or Final Order paperwork in your case.
  3. Prior to your PPC date, go to the website and click on “Parent Planning Conf”and watch both of the following required videos:
    • Judge’s “Parenting Through Divorce” video, and
    • “Listen to the Voices of the Children of Divorce” video
  4. After watching both videos, print out the Attestation Form available on the same website and sign it before a Notary Public. (NOTE:  You are signing this document under penalty of perjury.)  Then, file the notarized Attestation Form with the Family Relations clerk on the 2nd floor of the Courthouse.  Bring a copy of the notarized Attestation Form to your PPC.
  5. Sign up for your required 4-hour parenting seminar. You must complete one of these:
    • “Helping Children Cope with Divorce” offered by Family & Children’s Services in Tulsa or
    • “Co-Parenting for Resilience” through Oklahoma State University online at


If you complete all of the following requirements prior to your PPC date, then your PPC setting can be waived:

  • Watch both required videos
  • File your notarized Attestation Form
  • Complete the required 4-hour parenting seminar and file your certificate of completion
  • Reach a Temporary Order Agreement signed by all necessary parties and provide it to the Court for approval


Temporary Order paperwork is available on the Tulsa County District Court website: click “Family Court” tab, then click “Family Court Forms”.


Attorneys and parties shall attend the PPC unless all requirements have been completed prior to the PPC setting.


If you are representing yourself and have questions, please contact:

Steven Amend

Family Resource Coordinator



ZOOM – Pffice Visits and MEDIATIONS

We use the ZOOM app for video conferencing.  It is basically like Facetime or Skype, except that it was made to talk to a group not just one person. You can download and use Zoom from your personal computer IF you have a microphone and a webcam. For Windows computers, use this link  for the Mac follow this link: If you have a laptop, the mic and camera are probably built in so that is convenient.  Of course, the easiest way may be to just use your cell phone and download the zoom app to use your built-in camera and mic.  Mobile apps are Here:

or here: See the directions below.

Once all the parties and their attorneys agree to a date and time, our office will email a confirmation letter with important mediation information.  Prior to the actual mediation date we will also email a zoom “invitation” that has the date time and the link to our online meeting room.  All you need to do is download the zoom app following the directions above and then click on the link in the email about your mediation and you will be taken to the virtual mediation room.  There will be a “waiting for the meeting” screen that says the meeting is about to begin.   If there are any technical difficulties or you have problems, just call my assistant or myself at (918) 794-5587 and we can walk you through it.  When everyone is online and ready, the mediation can begin.  You basically are still in separate rooms because only I can see everyone.  I will go back and forth between the parties discussing how to best settle the issues that are holding us up from settlement.  Once we have worked everything out, I will draft up a written agreement and email it to everyone to sign and send back to me.  Once everyone has signed, I will email your attorney all the signature pages so they can begin working on drafting the formal order for the Judge to sign.  As to payment, my assistant can take credit/debt card information over the phone for payment and a receipt will be emailed to you.

We will also be using conference calls for those without viable webcam access.

As events change, I will do my best to be work with everyone on after-hours help, weekends or whatever it takes.  We look forward to working with you.

***Using ZOOM***

Using Zoom Meetings for Mobile
For those of you without access to a computer, you can use your mobile phone to participate in the Zoom Meeting. Please follow the steps below:
1. Download the Zoom app from the appropriate store app (Apple Store or Play Store).
2. Once ready to join the meeting, open the Zoom app on your mobile.

3. Click the button “Join Meeting” to begin.

4. Enter in your Meeting ID and a Name if Desired.

5. Click Join Meeting.
6. You may be prompted to allow your mobile phone to access your camera and microphone, allow these both. You will then see a preview window. You can choose to turn this preview off using the slider below.

You are now ready to connect to the meeting.

Once you are ready to leave the meeting, touch your screen and the menu options will appear.  Click “Leave Meeting” to disconnect.